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The Bad Attitude

The only disability in life is a bad attitude.

People all over can tell when a person has a bad attitude for nothing or when they’re having an over exaggerated attitude about a situation being addressed.

You’ve seen it. A mother and her child gets on a bus. It seems like she has everything under control. But only after few moments you begin to notice who’s really in control.

You begin to offer to help the women but she refuses all offers of help with her out-of-control little demon monster child. Oh, come on…

You know you’ve seen those types of children. Hell-bent on making every waking minute of their caregivers day a re-livable nightmare.

How can a bad attitude be handled?

Well, first of all, When you are faced with a problem, you must adopt an attitude of “you can and will solve it.”

MAINTAINING the right attitude is easier than REGAINING the right attitude. For example, getting frustrated about observing an out of control child on a bus giving their caregiver problems. You may at times think that this person has their hands full and then some or even “what would you do if” kind of scenario, you can’t help but wonder.

Who’s in control, you or that attitude?

Have you heard this before? “If you don’t control your attitude, then your attitude will control you.” A bad attitude is like a flat tire, you won’t be able to move forward unless you change it.

A person can seriously change their future just by changing their attitude. Anything that we face cannot be as important as our attitude toward it.

Our attitude determines our success or failure towards any given task or subject and the way you think about a subject could break you before you can ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the subject because you think you are.

In all and in every case, it’s two things that will define you, your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.

Because in life things are rarely perfect. Nevertheless, there is an opposition to all things. Up-down, left-right, good-bad… The scale is always balanced and people are the only creatures on the planet that have a choice on which side to choose.

You control your attitude. If you are negative it is because you have decided to be negative and not because of other people or circumstances. Your attitude is the only thing in life that you do have absolute control over.

You create beauty with your attitude, and it’s your behaviors, your reactions and your actions that determine how much beauty there is to enjoy. It’s all up to you!

Everyone should understand that everything should be considered subjective. A regular person’s circumstances have nothing to do with their past or present events and their perception of those events along with the attitude and manner that they choose to approach it.

When we are on a journey we don’t fear change, we welcome it, we look forward to new and unfamiliar experiences, we are full of optimism because we are filled with the expectation of a wonderful adventure and it’s the perfect attitude to carry with you every day because life too is a journey. ~Anonymous

Unfamiliar Circumstances Shape Attitudes

When we experience unfamiliar circumstances, we Are usually filled with optimism because we expect a positive experience. Having the right attitude, can without a doubt, carry you cheerfully through your journey’s end.

The attitude should be that if you’re being pushed towards something that is thought of as a weakness, then it can turn a perspective weakness into an exceptional strength.

When your knowledge speaks, your wisdom will be listening.

It is your attitude towards life that will determine life’s attitude towards you. Despite many people’s belief to the contrary, life pays no favorites ~ Anonymous

When it comes to the attitude I’m sure that all people have had their fair share of recognizing another person attitude as offensive than having to tolerate a bad one.

Either way, we should be taking negative attitudes that may possibly come to our ways, such as insults or smart quirky or obnoxious verbal taunts that others may hurl at you and make something positive from them.

“Laugh…and the whole world laughs with you. Cry and you’re usually crying alone.

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Getting Tripped Up From Obstacles Lately?

Never let any hurdles big or small in life trip you up and stop you from achieving your goals in life.

Getting tripped up from obstacles lately? Well, this is a famous quote that I recently came across. Decided this seems like an appropriate topic to cover these days. We are living in a troublesome era and it’s becoming more and more difficult to discern whether or not its safe to do anything these days. Even going outside seems to be precarious.

The fact of the matter is that Sometimes we feel like we want to give up, but deep inside, we should be positively certain that we are all just warming up. Gearing up for what’s ahead.

The Struggle is Real

We may experience life changes and major challenges even from the worst case scenario ever. But we should never be too afraid of fighting for what’s right for you and what’s for the better. What Trips people up in their day-to-day struggle is they Don’t work until they get it right. What they should be doing is Working until they can’t get it wrong.

People need to realize that It’s not important to achieve everything at first try or at one go. However, it’s extremely important to make positive progress in reasonable time. The timing is critical… But don’t let That trip you up.

Never quit. If you stumble to get back up. What happened yesterday no longer matters. Today’s another day to get back on track and move closer to your dreams and goals. You can do it!

We hear our close companions encourage us in our journey to fulfill our hopes and dreams yet time and again something seems to knock us off our game. You have a choice! You can throw in the towel or you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face. A failure is not always necessarily a mistake, it may simply be the best action that one can do at that circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying or giving up. If you’re concerned about limits and limitations? Don’t be discouraged about limits, they are just a state of mind. A person can always push themselves to do better, no matter what the cost might be. Keep going at it and you will succeed. Keep in mind that there are pleasant ways to get around unpleasant obstacles.

Just In Case You’re Still Wondering Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. Don’t let the thoughts of failure stop you from trying, even when you fail, it’s not enough to give up. The light bulb itself finally found success after so many trials. The question isn’t who’s going to let you; it’s who’s going to stop you. In life, we will never know what kind of result we will get until we try our very best, and see it through, whatever it is until the end. If it’s good work you’re doing, or If you’re doing good work, don’t stop keep working.

Experiencing negative situations, like trip-ups and negative people along the way? Don’t worry, no matter what others say or how much they discourage you. Keep trying.

Remember that winners lose so much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you’re still trying you’re still on the right track! If you fall, rise back up, shake it off dust yourself off and try again. Never give up, and never stop trying to achieve the goals and dreams that you know you deserve. My Lessons Learned “I have failed countless times and still kept going. It’s because I’ve learned that the more times I fail, the more I will learn. It doesn’t hurt to keep trying and the long-term benefits… Well, just by sticking to the program, regardless of getting tripped up.” ~Linda Dawkins This can be life-transforming. I can honestly say that things have changed in my life for the better. I’ve become wiser in my choices and the lives of those around me, mainly my family, friends, associates, and business partners have been blessed as a result of my persistence. Nevertheless, some people will always prefer to see you down and lower, but use that to motivate yourself into working harder and growing better. Don’t reduce your efforts just because you’re missing the target, nothing great comes simple. Steady your aim and train harder. Then you won’t be getting tripped up by those obstacles that do inevitable that come along our way. What did you think would happen? “Too much that has been given, much shall be required...” What happens after you succeed at whatever you attempted? Well, success is earned, right? After we earn something it becomes our own. However, nothing earned id completely deserved unless it is shared with others. You can have everything in the world but do you deserve it? Some may argue, Of Course, you deserve it, after all, your blood, sweat, and tears went into, that struggle to obtain the little bit you do have… It’s yours. You deserve it. I won’t condemn you, in fact, by all means, enjoy your rewards. There’s just one thing that you should know.

Once you cross those hurdles, it’s not over. There will be more… And more… And more.

Those things that trip you up, will keep pouring right in. But remember this. You don’t have to go through them alone. Teamwork makes the dream work! True words. No man is an island, no man stands alone. How critical are the critics? The most prevalent, most repeated and biggest mistake people make in life is worrying about what everyone else thinks. Nevertheless, their criticism is necessary if you ever truly want to succeed. Getting angry, then alienating yourself and avoiding conflict only makes matters worse and prolongs actual progress that could lead to more successful experiences. Bottom line, evidence shows that educated people change themselves according to their situations, and apparently, experienced people change situations according to them. The inexperienced continue to experience failure or trip-ups. If the inexperienced try, keep trying, they too will have more positive results in whatever they’re faced with. Either way, success is on the horizon. You may not see it right away, but it is coming. Learn from your past, make a plan for your future keep working for it until you get it in your presence. Because today is tomorrows past and yesterdays tomorrow. What can be learned from this? “Least we become as little children…” ~J.C. We have all seen it. Children, of all ages, kind hearts, compassionate, forgiving and strong people. All we need to do is look at their example. For some strange reason, we grown-ups forgot what its like to be a child. We have become hardened by the devastating effects of experience being our teachers and of course, along with experience are those frequent difficult lessons, that sometimes come with their own bumps and bruises from trip-ups. The fact remains that children, get up fast when they trip. The cry when they’re hurt, expressing their feelings, by releasing negative energy, by crying… Something that grown-ups rarely do. Release, let go and start over… That’s what they do. However, children are best consoled with help from someone, for example; A close friend, parent, grandparent, sibling etc. The same goes for us grown-ups. We are strong alone or with the help of others.

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Definitive People In A Wishy Washy World

Are you firm in your answers to others? Do you have a definite “Yes” or “No” when called upon during exceptional circumstances? Or are you sometimes, flip-floppy, or wishy-washy or scared when it comes to similar crucial decisions or unusual circumstances?

Being wishy-washy, some-timey or indecisive never gets anybody anyplace fast. But being definite does.

Focused action and continuous efforts are the keys to getting what you really want in life. It is the accumulative weight of our disciplines and our judgments that leads us to either our fortunes or our failures.

You have to be real with yourself before you can be real with anyone else.

Being sincere and true to yourself defines your authenticity. Always be yourself despite what others think. If you’re not selling the real you to people, you’re selling yourself short. People are looking to embrace and welcome an honest person, which you can definitely tell just by their “handshake” which is the first indication of a first impression.

Before you count your friends, make sure you can count on them. Some friends are only around when they want something from you but are never there when you need something from them.

Are you tired of counting on them then getting disappointed? I sure am. I’m sure most are. But how many people actually tell their friends that they don’t appreciate them? How many people are actually tired if the bullshit and disloyal behavior tendencies that their friends omit? I for one have had it up to here with wishy-washy, indecisive people.

Too many people use being scared as an excuse for not trying. You may fail but try again. That’s how you grow. That’s how you do incredible things.

Uncertainty is the basis for confusion. I hope that you realize that if a person cannot decide on a side to choose that they are definitely confused. Who in their right mind will follow a confused person? Or boss. Or leader for that matter. Your either all in or all it type of behavior.

Nevertheless, we must choose our battles.

For instance, deciding what to eat for dinner as a group out for dinner or for a family gathering, is a lot easier to organize and implement than it is to organize and implement an election, (results may vary). Some people will be gracious to have had a meal while others may critique how long it took for the main course to arrive.

In contrast, some may be happy with election results while others are totally disappointed to the point of extreme anger, rage, and violence. Yet, in both cases, the persons at the table cannot choose what portion is given to them, regardless of their selection, whether it be, leg, wing, thigh or breast… You Can’t choose which chicken your portion is coming from. In contrast again. You can select whom you believe would be the better choice to lead a nation, but you Can’t choose if that person will do their job with honor.

Regardless, the people in the country cannot decide whether or not their choice for a leader came from the right background or has the right designs for the country.

If wishy-washy people ruled the world…

What a messed up place we would be in? What are your thoughts on this matter? Do people know it all?

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The Existence of American Racism, Bigotry, Discrimination, Prejudice In 2018? Damn, Not Cool All

Opinion

Racism isn’t a new thing. Slavery isn’t new either.  Discrimination, bigotry and prejudices are not new either and  I don’t know why people are shocked at the terribly  rude,  vulgar,  filled with contention,  condescension and disgusting behavior of other people and although they never looked down on or thought less of another person. As though they had no value other than carrying out the orders of someone who thinks they know what’s good for,  what they need,  and want another person wants or needs. 

I’m not sure if that flew over your head or not. I won’t be surprised if it did. Because if you haven’t picked up my drift by now,  you will.

I have come to the conclusion that  there are some serious problems with some of the present members of the human race especially in America. I say America because,  that’s where  live  and apparently racism,  bigotry,  discrimination and prejudice does occur in larger numbers than we have previously assumed. There is no way to know how many instances occur in America or elsewhere,  because of those unreported and undocumented cases,  and those cases that don’t end well for the victims and those cases that have been buried by

No one really knows when, where, or who started it. There have been many discussions and documentaries written and published in popular magazines like National Geographic and on television various movies,  series’ and public broadcasts that cover the topics of slavery and racism with so many various conceptual ideas of where and how it began. Some day it easy the Europeans, particularly The Vikings, others say it was people in Egypt and certain Mediterranean areas in and around the African continent.

l Only know that the practice is sickening.The fact that a human being can be demoralized,  dehumanized and considered as property is appalling to say the least and there should be no debating that.

From what I understand,  according to the historical remarks made in history,  if it was the Vikings,  they actually treated their slaves pretty good. If it was the Egyptians, and according to the Bible and other religious documents,  “… The burdens of those slaves waxed sore… ” If it was The Europeans, apparently, they took more than a few pages from The Egyptians tactics manual. With an emphasis on waxing sore.

Those methods used to subdue and control were brutal. It only showed how brutal, naturalistic, animatistic and savage the human race can be. If given the opportunity to overpower,  subdue and control another group of individuals.

Yeah, sure some people say that MOST of those brutal techniques were designed by Africans, Egypt is a part of Africa. They also say that Chinese or European persons,  (not necessarily in that order beat their slaves regularly.

While it was common for the Vikings to adopt slaves into their families. Treating them fairly and justly,  sometimes,  passing on title normally destined to biological children. It was a matter of honor and principal,  who was more deserving,  who earned it.

Slaves were given an opportunity to prove their loyalty and were known to happily join the family of the people whose biological family members were,  sometimes years before depending on the circumstances, completely slaughtered,  beheaded,  disemboweled,  staked even crucified and burned, ( that’s just the way things were). Because we are bred in war and violence there is no exact way to tell who started it first. 

Thing thing that makes human beings the only species on the planet that conducts slavery methods to inflict as much pain and suffering on the ones enslaved only to elevate or make themselves in a position of leader,  owner or master/mistress is monetary gain. 

It’s hard to see where there is profit to be made in the sale of another human being for a price,  against the will of the person being brought to this position of slave or servant. Nevertheless, it happen everyday,  even today in the form  of human trafficking. 

What current criminals who conduct human trafficking are definitely aware of, and what they will always encounter is fighters. 

Human beings are Natural fighters, warriors, protectors and defenders but we will flip or sell out each other if and when given a chance or opportunity,  without a second thought while considering the benefits of that betrayal. Always considering what price will be paid…

There is Always a price,  or debt.  Anytime,  something as evil as slavery surfaces,  or a possible threat that a country,  village,  city or town has a problem with missing persons,  human trafficking is considered as a possible method determining the disappearance of persons.

These days,  the likelihood of a person getting caught up in human trafficking and modern-day slavery and in this awful world of deception and violence is at a median.

As a side note,  you can Google search how to avoid being a victim of human trafficking and get some really interesting facts,  tips and safety measures that you and your family can take to ensure the safety of your friends and family.

We are opportunistic and unlike other species that enslave other species to do their bidding and carry their burdens,  who after servitude are given mercy by a quick sometimes painless death. Like some  insects that lay their eggs on live hosts,  whose life will end most gruesomely.  Is pacified with venom that numbs whatever discomfort or pain that the subject may inevitably feel during its demise.  When it comes to people,  no such consideration is measured. Compassion does not exist.

What about the so-called “free” slave?

The modern-day employee is the “free-slave”.

A patent… Is a “free-slave”

They wish only to survive in a world where they are hated and any efforts to alleviate any discomfort,  provide assistance, console or protect is discouraged by the overseer.

Over the years, It went from, “You gotta make them learn that no one can help them. “ when the slaves were being forced into servitude.  To “They have to realize that things don’t come easy. “ When they were freed as a result of Abraham Lincolns’ Emancipation  Proclamation.  To “Those people are lazy and on welfare. “ Today,  after years of servitude and newly found freedoms.

They are hated with passion by people who have no idea why they hate. Other than that hate was based solely on the pigmentation of ones skin color? Or on their clever abilities. Like on the Box Office The Black Panther with the popular battle cry “Wakanda Forever”

I suppose that it is only natural for some people to get apprehensive about what else the people that they were forcing underfoot were capable of. They are very different by the way.

How ‘Did’ African Slaves Get Captured? 

There has been dispute recently about how these slaves were captured. Some say that they were sold by their own people others disagree. I would like to interject a modern suggest,  I think that I would like to say,  “of course white slave owners may have used African tactics to capture Africans slaves. ” Slavery and racism is a topic that most people avoid altogether anyway.

Not me… My 10ft pole got shorter as I watch current events that are happening right now as we speak. Watching this occur in this country of supposed free men and women. The story that was never told is now unfolding.  The Witness of the History rewriting or unravelling itself right before our eyes.

How would they have been able to subdue and control them?

Besides the threats on family members like holding children hostage until the person gives in.  Or starving them or not letting them see loved ones also taken by force. The slave owner usually gets what they want.

Science doesn’t help either. Besides the introduction of diseases, the organization of systematic kidnappings and human trafficking… Just like today. ..

(I could say, “Alas” right here…)

Statistically,  they have introduced drugs and every few years its something else more powerful to control those slaves to get them to do what they want…

It seems slavery has taken on new meaning. Like in Human Trafficking. The only Exception is the fact that it is Still forced. Usually forced upon the helpless, the weak and children… Mostly girls and women,  some boys. Are forcibly kidnapped  or taken from their parents and homes.  Blind folded and Taken to places far away.

Sadly,  For the most hideous  and depraved acts performed on a live human being. Presently, there are scores of human trafficking survival stories.

What’s that about drugs and slavery? 

Even though there are no particular nationalities specified as victims,  because drugs affect all communities, society  says they are casualties that have and will become entrapped in the designs meant to eradicate,  subdue or control a particular  races. The systematic destruction and attempted genocide continues to occur.

So

Can An Entire Race Be Killed off? 

First let me say that it has been tried… Probably has been proven in the past that attempts have been made to erase entire blood lines of races.

However,  you can never kill off an entire race of people. Nature will always find a way. As every parent tells their child,  with tears in their eyes,  ” You Must Live… ” are usually the last words heard before children are torn from their parents arms.

For African-Americans, I say It will never happen because it is impossible to kill off a Chosen People.

Perhaps, they were meant to bear the burdens of others who cannot do The Heavy Work for themselves… Regardless,  they survived and their descendants are now enjoying those freedoms once denied to them so long ago. Nevertheless it seems,  that presently, the way our so-called leaders retreat in the face of this horrid crime,  that some of our government heads would like for that to happen.

What is slavery? My weird take on how slavery possibly occurred in Africa

The strong help the weak… Simple deduction…Right?  Wrong.

Things probably would have went a lot smoother if some European slave owners weren’t so lazy.

I mean look at this…

Imagine, you are a wealthy sugar plantation farmer. Your plantations n deals in sugar processes from sugar cane grown and harvested on your farm.

You want to expand because the economy is getting better,  and the population is growing at your settlement. You’re doing well producing sugar cane and cotton,  (two pretty awesome commodities),  at your plantation.  However,  cotton production is slow because you can’t pick the flowers fast enough to meet the demands of textile companies overseas.

You know that you need to find a way to maneuver your goods ,  and you need help.

You don’t even have a dock or port to work from. Doing your research,  you decide to make arrangements to travel to Africa you hear that you can procure some help,  (you’ve also heard that there are lots of trade opportunities and a plethora of services available for you and that its an old country with undiscovered riches a new country filled with idiot savages willing to strike a bargain… Oh and they call you “blue-eyed devil.

So you go to Africa to try to procure Inexpensive help to take back home… You can only imagine what your current help is doing by now. Because you have a little bit of experience and knowledge about who you left in charge when you left. Not sure how production is going,  you continue on your way.

Arriving at your destination,  you are not received as you expected,  according to what you have heard… Just depends on how you made your first impression to be towards a people that has never seen a pale face before.

Perhaps you are welcomed. Perhaps as a welcomed visitor or even like a God.

The Chief of this active, somewhat unbelievably modern tribe of villagers decides to barter, “A Few Good Men” with you as a gesture of good will in a possible lucrative and possibly beneficial deal with the people. Things are looking great.  Right?

Wrong.. .

In Africa in those days, a few good men was about 8 to 10 strong men and women that “CAN DO” The work of 5 or 6 average white indentured men or women. You soon realize that you needed more help than that of your initial bargaining.

To most decent people,  this is a no-no. You cannot change up on a deal that has already been struck. 

What would you do after you complete your mission and your business is already doing insufficiently with the help that you obtained?

You are barely meeting demand with your supply and as time goes by,  and the population increases,  yet again,  you are forced to acquire more help. But you cannot afford to pay all of the help that you’re receiving. What are you going to live off of?

In the meanwhile,  You’re  getting all sorts of Admirers asking you how you built that “wonder,  this business and where did you get those dark-skinned workers? 

With pride,  you inform them, that you took a trip to Africa and traded with The Chief. Your admirer begs you to go with them to talk with the Chief.

You are both under the impression that after a while,  there ate many thousands of workers,  ripe for the pickings .  Also,  with the further impression that you both can just “go there” and get the “same bargain”,  after a fouled deal… Guess again…

Guess what’s next?

If you can only imagine?

What’s next is, Your friend has an attitude with the chief, because he can’t get “the same deal” if not better… Then all hell breaks loose. If you haven’t watched Amistaad or Roots, then you should.

Slaver slavery is STILL in full play. It doesn’t matter who started it… Racism is Still in Full play, it doesn’t matter who started it. It just needs to end.

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We need more tolerance and compassion in the world rather than vice and discord.

Modern Day Slavery includes,  human trafficking, unfair wages,  a person can even become a slave to their children and families… Living lives that are not what they choose or how they respectively to live, its the same thing. 

Unfortunately, nothing has been done to rectify any of the horrendous treatment that people of all races have experienced. We can only make effort not to treat others in this fashion.  We are after all the same underneath our skins,  the only difference is our gender. (Whether male or female). And age does not matter either,  except in the case of human trafficking. Where age plays a crucial role in the  amounts earned by victims. The numbers are astounding.

This is my objective opinion. I do have compassionate for the many hundred millions of people who have gone through the fires of slavery and racism and survived long enough If only to tell the tale.

Today,  the term slavery is used loosely, and words like nigger or nigga has several  meanings,  uses and functions… Go figure? I which only  a race of people are allowed to use the word loosely,  or a person must be cautious of who they are around   and racism is fat from over. They work hand in hand.

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What To Do When Your Plates Is Full

“It takes two years for a single pineapple to grow, It Takes Us Longer Because By The Time We’re Ripened, We’ll Have Much More Flavor. “

Why are we in such a hurry to get things done or to expect success to magically appear? Even at the cost of sometimes hurting others. Knocking over plates and piling personal issues on the nearest person to them.

It seems that no one is satisfied with their share of the proverbial pie. Come hooks, by crooks or by every means necessary, everyone tries reaching their goals.

Maybe, they’d rather try to make a very best effort to reach their goals, but are hindered by something or someone.

Even for those stars that they’ve been encouraged to reach for, may seem so far away.

For as long as I can remember… since ‘media‘ has been ‘a thing‘. Ultimately, everyone has been getting encouraged to do whatever their minds and hearts desire that make them set out to do the things they do.

The problem is, people sometimes, Don’t want to take the time to go as far as they can go with the goals that they initially begin. They get blocked.

There are various reasons why this happens but I’m not going to talk about why those many reasons exist . What I will do is offer suggestions on why you should finish what you start.

One of the main reasons people don’t finish what they start is because they get distracted by some other interest that had taken precedence over their initial interest.

Enough so, that they are incapacitated and are unable to operate efficiently without sacrificing one or two of their own dreams, desires or goals, (it doesn’t have to be their own problem, it can be someone elses). But they take it upon themselves to intervene. Without question, there are those who happily help others, constantly making those crucial decisions that lead to major sacrifices.

Forgetting about their one problems or food on their plate, making great lingerie lasting friendships along the way.

People usually allow room for others needs. Placing others before themselves. The problem with this is that they eventually wind up delaying, postponing, suspending, canceling even down right quitting altogether that dream that they once had.. Sometimes only moments ago.

This happens mostly because of our imperfect judgement of time and the bad timing on the behalf of the person or persons in need of that help.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with kindness. In fact I encourage kindness first… at all cost. However, there are cases, ( use your judgment), where people are kind to everyone but themselves.

We all can pretty much relate to this in one way or another. What happens to the person who neglects them self? I’m sure you get the picture, catch my drift And understand what I’m saying.

That’s why you must protect your plate from any extra entrees at all cost…

Why?

Because it’s usually full, that’s why.

It’s not just a Technicality. In reality, if you want to help someone you have to be in the position to help them. If not, you’re both severely damaged boats trying to float in the ocean, just waiting to sink.

What happens when you have way too much to eat? You may get sick right? Throw up, barf, vomit… You’d Puke!!!

Well, what do you think happens when you try to help someone, by sacrificing your self, your time, your efforts and kindness?

I know, I know, they say “Kindness has its own rewards. ”

Well… I guess… If you want to choose optimism in a society built from pessimistic attitudes. I suppose so. You can try kindness…

However, I can promise you that kindness, is the beginning of suffering… It may leave you happy that you’ve done something good for someone maybe you even saved the day… A lot of people were helped on account of your good deeds. They’re a lot better off than they were before you came to the rescue.

Nevertheless, by coming to the rescue the way you did, perhaps you have forgotten something important that you were supposed to do for yourself… That is unfortunately no longer an issue because you put it off for another day. The feeling that sometimes comes up afterwards is regret.

Why the tolerance of unnecessary suffering?

Some don’t realize that your plate is already filled and overflowing with your goals, tasks, projects, ideas, responsibilities and obligations?

Unless you are Already able, or were gifted to be born in an already comfortable lifestyle, you Really can’t afford to be that Superman or Superwoman that all your friends, family members, acquaintances and strangers trust that you are. You really can’t waste anymore of your own precious time to help others.

This is not bmean… Its survival…

If you’re having trouble taking care if yourself, its because you’re trying ever so hard to accommodate the relentless needs of others. This will not do. Especially if you’re trying to accomplish your own dreams and goals.

Why?

If you haven’t heard these sayings by now, then here you go!

“Your Time Is Precious. ”

“Time oh, give me time… 🎵🎵🎵. ”

“You only have one life to live. ”

“We spend our time trying to see things, when our perspective is one way, we lack the judgement to choose the right, (which usually requires a sacrifice of some type), and we never appreciate what we’ve go, until we can’t get it back.” Or

“These are some good times, so take a good look around. You may not know it now, but you’re going miss them.”

“There are times in our lives when we have trouble recognizing perfect moments until we realize they have passed us by and become memories.”

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. ”

If you are in need some encouragement, send your request!

Be as thorough as possible when explaining you issue, I will do my best to help you to resolve your them.

All tied up with no way out? Not Yet at least!

It doesn’t have to get that far though.

I’m sure that you’ve got my point by now. It takes time to grow. If we were some type of fruit-like creature, like a pineapple, things would happen a lot faster, The life-span of the average pineapple is… Well. . Short. But once they’re ripe, it won’t be too long afterwards that its devoured and enjoyed. We are not fruit.

“We are but simple creatures. Once ripened, we do fall off by the wayside.

We do wither away to practically nothing.

We do waste our given talents and wonder what happened later on.” -Anonymous

All while tying to find our place in this world we simultaneously try helping others in finding their own lives, helping them up along the way, in turn neglecting ourselves and our own.

Wouldn’t be so much easier if we were easy… and if we were capable of carrying our own plates as well as everyone else’s?

While there is some who can do this quite well. Like mothers, single parents, business owners and managers, etc. These are the exceptions. Their strength and courage are examples to us all.

Because juggling a family that includes children, school, work, employees, coworkers, companions, parents, siblings and those special persons in our lives, can be trying at times, at the most extremely stressful.

Nevertheless, the majority of the time we survive and pass those trials with flying colors and become as successful as we choose to be.

Furthermore, the majority of big sacrifices that come from our own plates are made to accommodate those issues pertaining to the needs and burdens of others ultimately leading to their dependence upon you.

Is It all good though?

Can it be done? Yes!

Because truthfully, we can do whatever, we emphatically make a conscious decision to choose to do.

If we set our minds to it and focus. Nevertheless, being aware that your time is precious and you would most certainly will regret wasting any of it if you do not accomplish at least ONE goal on your bucket list.

This can only be done if you are selective on the issues that you choose to address and are consistently selective with whom you choose to help in regards to importance.

Reality check… The person who you will be ultimately helping is yourself.

Test Yourself!

How can you recognize when to give your assistance to others?

Your heart won’t lie to you. Just follow your instincts.

How often are your plans interrupted?

How long does it take for you to get back on track after an unexpected event ? Do you?

Share an instant when you were unable to help someone because of an obligation, priority or responsibility? Did you feel guilty?

Believe it or not, after making changes to your life, ultimately realizing that you are only one person and that it’s alright to say a Non-Empathetic No… you will gain more control over your life and future events. Moreover, you will feel so much better about completing your goals.

What happens when you say ‘No’.

Beware… some people would try making you feel bad about your decision to help yourself first after their request for your assistance. Just remind them that if you are not able to help yourself, how can you help them?

It might seem like a ‘no brainer’ but there are people out there, maybe reading this post that Just got through asking someone that they KNOW are unable to help or that if they make that sacrifice it could hurt them in the long run… But do they care? Not really. That’s why you remind them.

In everything we do, our own thoughts can help us succeed, or they can help us fail. Maintain a positive attitude.

Whatever the case, remember that everything takes time. You need to spend time on yourself and it will take you longer to grow and ripen, so don’t waste it.

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I Knew You’d Pull Through

I Knew You’d Pull Through

“A meeting is an event at which the minutes are kept and the hours are lost.” Anonymous

When facing a stressful crisis or a really intense moment… Let’s face it, sometimes we don’t, sometimes we can’t and sometimes we get caught off guard. Sometimes believe it or not, all it takes is a broken fingernail.

It doesn’t take much for someone get touchy, be insulted, get sensitive to an overly outspoken and brutally honest individual, even to easily get ticked off at something as simple as a misplaced or unexpected even misguided compliment.

People Just get offended from the most trivial things. Enough to knock that chip off of someone’s shoulder. That will sadly and metaphorically be getting them all riled up. Rasing blood pressure and causing unwanted, unnecessary and quite possibly unwarranted heart-ache.

There’s no sense in wasting much-needed precious energy on things that you cannot change. Furthermore, the majority of the times, people get upset as a result of the bad choices that they tend to inevitably make From time to time.

Either way, we always find a way to pull through. Unless, we are or feel hopeless. Which leads to an unfortunate state of helplessness In cases such as these, psychological intervention is recommended. You’ve got to get back on track.

I know you’d pull through because there is something special inside of every single person that keeps them going. Keeps them bouncing back and keeps them hopeful.

“If you want to make people angry, lie to them. If you want to make them absolutely livid, then tell ’em the truth.” – Anonymous

 

You Will Survive Those Truthful Experiences!

Imagine hearing everything you wanted to hear all the time. No bad news… No negativity… Nothing real…

Sometimes bad news is depressing… But nine times out of ten, bad news tends to be the truth. It’s usually the heart-wrenching truth. That’s why it’s so hard on the ears at first. But when the truth has time to settle, it becomes a pleasant experience that will linger for years to come!

Why the long stay? you may ask. A feeling of elation will linger when you know certain truths. Because knowledge is powerful.

The truth is having certain knowledge.

Knowing the truth will bring you joy. Accessing those memories, that give you your certainty are what give you that power of knowing.

So telling people the truth may temporarily make them angry but eventually free them from becoming angry at a future date. Giving them courage to face their problem. Besides, perhaps, if you choose otherwise, by then, they may get even more angry at you for Not telling or even taking so long to say something in the first place. Plus, it shows what kind of friend you are.

Besides that, you’ve gotta respect a person brave enough to tell you that awful truth… At least you have the truth.

Especially if it’s as bad as people think and say it is or was. Of course you’d survive those truthful experiences. These experiences and others.

Facing Our Fears

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing. Also, If you didn’t know that having a good attitude is all you need because your biggest power will come once people underestimate you, your knowledge and your attitude towards your experiences, well now you know.

Moreover, you must realize that,

“Nothing would be put in your life if you weren’t strong enough to get through it.”- Anonymous

From Birth…

To adulthood…

We are strong enough…

To pull through… You did it then, you’ll do over and over again.

I hope that you enjoyed reading this little bit of motivational and fully understanding this encouraging message. It is my intent to offer my full support in what ever you choose to do!

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