Always be learning, Self help, Self Improvement, That's Love

What To Do When Your Plates Is Full

Linda Dawkins

“It takes two years for a single pineapple to grow, It Takes Us Longer Because By The Time We’re Ripened, We’ll Have Much More Flavor. “

Why are we in such a hurry to get things done or to expect success to magically appear? Even at the cost of sometimes hurting others. Knocking over plates and piling personal issues on the nearest person to them.

It seems that no one is satisfied with their share of the proverbial pie. Come hooks, by crooks or by every means necessary, everyone tries reaching their goals.

Maybe, they’d rather try to make a very best effort to reach their goals, but are hindered by something or someone.

Even for those stars that they’ve been encouraged to reach for, may seem so far away.

For as long as I can remember… since ‘media‘ has been ‘a thing‘. Ultimately, everyone has been getting encouraged to do whatever their minds and hearts desire that make them set out to do the things they do.

The problem is, people sometimes, Don’t want to take the time to go as far as they can go with the goals that they initially begin. They get blocked.

There are various reasons why this happens but I’m not going to talk about why those many reasons exist . What I will do is offer suggestions on why you should finish what you start.

One of the main reasons people don’t finish what they start is because they get distracted by some other interest that had taken precedence over their initial interest.

Enough so, that they are incapacitated and are unable to operate efficiently without sacrificing one or two of their own dreams, desires or goals, (it doesn’t have to be their own problem, it can be someone elses). But they take it upon themselves to intervene. Without question, there are those who happily help others, constantly making those crucial decisions that lead to major sacrifices.

Forgetting about their one problems or food on their plate, making great lingerie lasting friendships along the way.

People usually allow room for others needs. Placing others before themselves. The problem with this is that they eventually wind up delaying, postponing, suspending, canceling even down right quitting altogether that dream that they once had.. Sometimes only moments ago.

This happens mostly because of our imperfect judgement of time and the bad timing on the behalf of the person or persons in need of that help.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with kindness. In fact I encourage kindness first… at all cost. However, there are cases, ( use your judgment), where people are kind to everyone but themselves.

We all can pretty much relate to this in one way or another. What happens to the person who neglects them self? I’m sure you get the picture, catch my drift And understand what I’m saying.

That’s why you must protect your plate from any extra entrees at all cost…

Why?

Because it’s usually full, that’s why.

It’s not just a Technicality. In reality, if you want to help someone you have to be in the position to help them. If not, you’re both severely damaged boats trying to float in the ocean, just waiting to sink.

What happens when you have way too much to eat? You may get sick right? Throw up, barf, vomit… You’d Puke!!!

Well, what do you think happens when you try to help someone, by sacrificing your self, your time, your efforts and kindness?

I know, I know, they say “Kindness has its own rewards. ”

Well… I guess… If you want to choose optimism in a society built from pessimistic attitudes. I suppose so. You can try kindness…

However, I can promise you that kindness, is the beginning of suffering… It may leave you happy that you’ve done something good for someone maybe you even saved the day… A lot of people were helped on account of your good deeds. They’re a lot better off than they were before you came to the rescue.

Nevertheless, by coming to the rescue the way you did, perhaps you have forgotten something important that you were supposed to do for yourself… That is unfortunately no longer an issue because you put it off for another day. The feeling that sometimes comes up afterwards is regret.

Why the tolerance of unnecessary suffering?

Some don’t realize that your plate is already filled and overflowing with your goals, tasks, projects, ideas, responsibilities and obligations?

Unless you are Already able, or were gifted to be born in an already comfortable lifestyle, you Really can’t afford to be that Superman or Superwoman that all your friends, family members, acquaintances and strangers trust that you are. You really can’t waste anymore of your own precious time to help others.

This is not bmean… Its survival…

If you’re having trouble taking care if yourself, its because you’re trying ever so hard to accommodate the relentless needs of others. This will not do. Especially if you’re trying to accomplish your own dreams and goals.

Why?

If you haven’t heard these sayings by now, then here you go!

“Your Time Is Precious. ”

“Time oh, give me time… 🎵🎵🎵. ”

“You only have one life to live. ”

“We spend our time trying to see things, when our perspective is one way, we lack the judgement to choose the right, (which usually requires a sacrifice of some type), and we never appreciate what we’ve go, until we can’t get it back.” Or

“These are some good times, so take a good look around. You may not know it now, but you’re going miss them.”

“There are times in our lives when we have trouble recognizing perfect moments until we realize they have passed us by and become memories.”

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. ”

If you are in need some encouragement, send your request!

Be as thorough as possible when explaining you issue, I will do my best to help you to resolve your them.

All tied up with no way out? Not Yet at least!

It doesn’t have to get that far though.

I’m sure that you’ve got my point by now. It takes time to grow. If we were some type of fruit-like creature, like a pineapple, things would happen a lot faster, The life-span of the average pineapple is… Well. . Short. But once they’re ripe, it won’t be too long afterwards that its devoured and enjoyed. We are not fruit.

“We are but simple creatures. Once ripened, we do fall off by the wayside.

We do wither away to practically nothing.

We do waste our given talents and wonder what happened later on.” -Anonymous

All while tying to find our place in this world we simultaneously try helping others in finding their own lives, helping them up along the way, in turn neglecting ourselves and our own.

Wouldn’t be so much easier if we were easy… and if we were capable of carrying our own plates as well as everyone else’s?

While there is some who can do this quite well. Like mothers, single parents, business owners and managers, etc. These are the exceptions. Their strength and courage are examples to us all.

Because juggling a family that includes children, school, work, employees, coworkers, companions, parents, siblings and those special persons in our lives, can be trying at times, at the most extremely stressful.

Nevertheless, the majority of the time we survive and pass those trials with flying colors and become as successful as we choose to be.

Furthermore, the majority of big sacrifices that come from our own plates are made to accommodate those issues pertaining to the needs and burdens of others ultimately leading to their dependence upon you.

Is It all good though?

Can it be done? Yes!

Because truthfully, we can do whatever, we emphatically make a conscious decision to choose to do.

If we set our minds to it and focus. Nevertheless, being aware that your time is precious and you would most certainly will regret wasting any of it if you do not accomplish at least ONE goal on your bucket list.

This can only be done if you are selective on the issues that you choose to address and are consistently selective with whom you choose to help in regards to importance.

Reality check… The person who you will be ultimately helping is yourself.

Test Yourself!

How can you recognize when to give your assistance to others?

Your heart won’t lie to you. Just follow your instincts.

How often are your plans interrupted?

How long does it take for you to get back on track after an unexpected event ? Do you?

Share an instant when you were unable to help someone because of an obligation, priority or responsibility? Did you feel guilty?

Believe it or not, after making changes to your life, ultimately realizing that you are only one person and that it’s alright to say a Non-Empathetic No… you will gain more control over your life and future events. Moreover, you will feel so much better about completing your goals.

What happens when you say ‘No’.

Beware… some people would try making you feel bad about your decision to help yourself first after their request for your assistance. Just remind them that if you are not able to help yourself, how can you help them?

It might seem like a ‘no brainer’ but there are people out there, maybe reading this post that Just got through asking someone that they KNOW are unable to help or that if they make that sacrifice it could hurt them in the long run… But do they care? Not really. That’s why you remind them.

In everything we do, our own thoughts can help us succeed, or they can help us fail. Maintain a positive attitude.

Whatever the case, remember that everything takes time. You need to spend time on yourself and it will take you longer to grow and ripen, so don’t waste it.

Published by Linda Dawkins

My interests include but are not limited to promoting artists and their music, creating new business opportunities, network marketing, affiliate marketing. Presently, I began a new hobby in painting. I also spent a number of years Developing my writing skills 'Freelance' writing as a Music Editor/Audioist for Exposed Vocals, the largest online forum that focuses on giving unsigned recording artists a chance to have their music heard on FM radio stations. I accept donations for payment. I also have blogs on Medium on various topics, http://medium.com/iamlindadz89 , http://www.iamlindadz89.com, creativeemphasis.com, thatsloveforyou.com Creativeemphasis.art.blog, thatsloveforyou.eordpress.com where I also share various topics of interest. By the way, Medium is an excellent application where business leaders and Freelance Writers, share interesting topics and short original stories. well, that's how I see it... I think feedback is crucial here, as it gives authors incentive and encouragement into their network growth. Furthermore, the opportunity to have your original content shared for free. These are my passions. I enjoy the skills that I possess and utilize them creatively. My long term goals are to employ future writers and receive journalism interns. As a Writer, I hope to be able to help others. I am trainable I love learning new things. I am personable. I am easy to get along with and have an Awesome Personality and off beat sense of humor. I also make up lyrics to beats that I purchase online. And the list goes on and on.

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